What NOT to do on Mother’s Day

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The Hudson Valley Handymom with her mom.

Mother’s Day will be here on Sunday, May 11th.  Yes, it’s become a commercialized holiday just like all holidays.  With every holiday, the retail stores jump on the bandwagon of the exploitation of guilting everyone into showing how much they care through a monetary purchase.

If you’re one of those people who look at Mother’s Day, shake your head, and say, “It’s all commercialized,” then, you may not be a mother…or at least not one who feels she deserves a little extra love one day a year.

Would it KILL you to tell your mother JUST ONCE how much she means to you?

As a mom, I know the insurmountable sacrifices we make.  Let’s not kid ourselves here.  So many of us take on more than one job, wear more than one hat, and consume ourselves with making sure everyone is taken care of and has nice, clean clothes while we’re trying to get as much use out of decade old clothing as we can in order for our children to have what they need.  After all, we want our kids to fit in at school, and the last thing in the world we would want is for our children to be teased for wearing clothes like we end up wearing.

Yet, by their teenage years, our very presence in those clothes could be a source of embarrassment.  We’re not cool enough.  We need our hairstyle changed.  We become the world’s biggest idiots and go from being the “go to” person for our children to complete morons who know nothing once our kids catch the “know-it-all” bug (which can extend into their twenties).

Here we are putting up with years of changing diapers, washing dishes, making meals – and, trust me, I’m anti-women having all of this dumped on them when two parties are involved with having children, but let’s face the facts here.  For the men who take on their fair share, God bless you!  I don’t hear these stories too much, but when I do, you’re like the world’s biggest hero.  At the same time, so many mothers have it all dumped on us, and the reward is ONE day a year to celebrate the fact that we’ve taken every job under the sun within our own households to make sure our children had the best possible chance they could get.  We’re not considered heroes.  In fact, we’re often informed that no matter how much we put into everything in our lives, we’re suppose to do more.  Even in 2014, so many of the cleaning advertisements are aimed at women.  We’re suppose to look younger, be thinner, and be able to take on the world.  Yet, a man in the same position, as I stated, would look like a hero.

So, when you utter the words about commercialized Mother’s Day and decide you want to somehow boycott the retail world, I have no objections to this.  However, use caution in uttering the words about Mother’s Day being commercialized in front of the woman who gave so much to you.  Moms deserve a day.  They deserve at least ONE day if not over 100 days of you doing something nice and wonderful.  The work we do is often under appreciated, devalued, and to put little thought into giving your mother ONE day is ridiculous.  If you can’t give one day, you have nothing to give.

There are moms who don’t deserve the mother-of-the-year award.  I’m not saying every mother deserves your undying love, but for the ones who did the right thing by you, they certainly deserve a piece of your heart.

Make your mother a meal.  Write her a poem.  Make a commitment to yourself that you’re going to help her out more or give her a call more often than usual.  Take her out.  Give her the ability to do some things that she may have given up for you.  Most things that you can do to show love cost absolutely nothing, but doing nothing at all when you could do something small that means so much shows your lack of consideration.  Give the woman who raised you and put so much into your life at least one day of joy.

 

 

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2 thoughts on “What NOT to do on Mother’s Day

  1. Christine Peckelis

    While I agree with a great deal you say, I personally think Mother’s Day has become a farce. What I really appreciate is the unexpected phone call from my son, just to talk on a random Tuesday evening. Or my daughter coming by and taking me to lunch, just because. It means more to me because it is spontaneous and from the heart, not because they’re supposed to do something. Perhaps I’m just greedy and want to be remembered all year long.

    1. Donna

      That was something I was trying to get across – if giving of a heart just ONE day a year is so difficult, then a person has nothing to give…nothing in the heart. I don’t mean that monetarily. I mean just doing something simple more than once a year. Life is too short for people not to let other people know they care.

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